Archive for April, 2010

On my to buy list…

Walking shoes (to trudge the mountains)

Sunblock (to not return looking all eyes and teeth)

Medicines (can I even leave the home without having enough and more stock of every possible ailment that could possibly afflict one on a trip where we will be far from civilisation, and with no recourse to immediate medical store and home delivery. And that too with the brat in attendance?)

Flat sandals or shoes (I suppose stilettoes are not exactly suitable for train journeys. What? What? What? I really havent travelled by long distance train for years now).

Enough Shampoo and conditioner to keep the hair from divesting itself onto the mountain trails.

Gifts for all I plan to meet.

I need to start making those lists like now.

Do you get it all back in this life?

I’ve always been fascinated by the laws of karma. So fascinated in fact, that we’ve even named our company Karma. Whatever goes round, comes round. As you sow, so shall you reap. And so on. And so forth. Which is why, I’ve always tried to live my life in a way that doesnt hurt or harm anyone needlessly. Sure, Ive had my share of losing my temper, and saying things I regret, but I would like to think I’ve always treated the other with respect, been grateful for what has been given to me, and said my thanks with appropriate gratitude and returned favours to the best of my ability.

Life has been very very difficult the past year. Sometimes when you feel it all comes together, and all you can see is a long dark tunnel up ahead and no glimmer of light coming through from any direction? When anything you touch turns to mud, and trouble comes from corners you least expect it to? That was us. It was a year of living hell, a year that put the iron in my spine, and a determination that this was not going to get us down, that we were going to emerge from this, stronger, wiser and more grateful for all we had. We are still in tunnel, but now there is a glimmer of light up ahead. We are slowly making our way out. And I go down on bended knees before every God in the pantheon to help us, handhold us as we struggle to scramble out of the darkness.

The biggest sin, in my books is ingratitude. And I’ve seen in this past week, how karma rebounds on those who sin in this way. Those who have been ingrates, have had exactly what they took away from us by manipulation, threats, deceit and violence taken right away from them. They have learnt the lesson of ingratitude. As they were ungrateful, so it has happened with them. As they have bitten the hand that fed them, so has their hand been bitten. As they scoffed at our generosity, claiming it as their rightful due, so has their generosity been taken as a right and spat right back into their face. As they took from us through thievery and cunning, and intimidation, it has been taken from them.

And all the sins they have committed earlier, the tears they have made innocents shed for no fault of theirs, have all come full circle. You can never build a happy home on the tears of another. I now believe in that saying. I’ve seen how the sword of karma strikes, swift, fast and exacting its due. A home built on another person’s tears and pain will never last. The law of karma will see to that. It has already.

Why do you get a cold when it is so frigging hot?

All around me, folks are walking around with hoarse whispers and racking coughs, racking enough to throw their shoulders out of shape and permanently dislocate the little something that joins the skull to the tip of the spinal vertebrae. Whatever it may be called, it is definitely delicate, and easily dislogdeable with a single sneeze the equivalent of a major Gesundheit. Which is why you might see a lot of folks walking around looking like permanent Jack in the Boxes, with heads wobbly atop their necks. They’ve sneezed their skull off balance. What they are doing though, to regain the balance is swallowing a hell of a lot of cold and flu medication which is designed to act on the cold and flu they are suffering from and make it go away in a couple of weeks, which is what it would go away in if they hadnt taken the cold and flu medication, but lets keep that hush hush because all the fancy medicines do is probably make them feel better and microscopically more positive about beating this flu virus at its game, and stop it from making major inroads into their lung system and going into double million digit statistics and cause what is known as pneumonia and such like, and then lead to hospitalisation, with needles poked into their veins giving them what they should have been drinking in the first place. Fluids. Lots of fluid. To flush out them cough and cold viruses from the deep recesses of the lungs and the thorax where theyre hiding.

Why are so many people falling prey to colds and coughs when the ambient temperature on the sidewalk is perfectly suitable to frying eggs on it, hold the oil? The answer lies in what the good doctor told me about how we move out from airconditioned premises to the fry your skull heat out on the streets and back again. This apparently confuses the brain so it gets on overdrive and forgets to send out signals to the blood cells to make enough antibodies to fight them viruses lurking around on every possible thing you could touch in a public place. Including a visiting celebrity. Therefore, donot shake hands with a visiting celebrity. He or she probably has more viruses lurking on that hand enough to wage biological warfare on the heathen unwashed.

Then there is the other important fact of us drinking down things that are designed to make the throat go bad. Aka chilled beer. And for me, ice cream that goes straight to the hips, and with its iceparticles sticking to the throat and making it a pulpy raw redness. Which also makes your voice hoarse and raspy so when you answer your phone when the mater calls, she gets a strange male voice answer gruffly and immediately hyperventilates and calls the cops to investigate if her beloved daughter is being held to ransom by random junkies.

And there is airconditioning, which is a nucleur fission multiplier kind of thingie for these viruses floating around, making them breed faster than rabbits, metaphorically speaking because viruses dont breed. They do replicate themselves in chaste manner which I need to get back to biology class to figure out how.

The moral of the story:

If its summer, switch off the airconditioner. Dont drink or eat any chilled stuff, including ice straight from the icetrays. Drink enough fluids, but ensure they are not chilled, therefore warm beer is the recommended solution. And do not shake hands with folks.

And if all this fails and you still get struck by an attack of the summer flu, get yourself to a medical store and buy a cold n flu medication that promises to get rid of your cold and flu in the same time it would take if it had decided itself to leave you alone and move on to its next victim. Simplest way to pass it on, shake hands with everyone you meet if you are sniffly. Spread the joy. And dont even think of using a tissue when you sneeze. You need to think of the entire medication industry we support as consumers.

Seriously though, you need to also support the hand sanitiser industry, therefore dont wash your hands. Just use some handsanitiser before every handshake. Unless of course, you plan on being the AxeMurderer bearing hordes of the parainfluenza virus and setting them loose on an unsuspecting world. Think of the tissue sales.

The horror of packing…

When you have a long extended trip planned, with the child and without the husband, you do tend to get a little paranoid. For one, because it means you will have to pack sensibly given that no one is about to help you haul your luggage up on trolleys and the child is prone to running off to explore corners in airports which are meant for only cleaning staff to reach. And you have the dual task of hauling suitcases and the child, which necessitates you to take a months worth of weight training in order to even attempt the task.

Hitherto, whenever we have had to travel, I have packed and packed and packed, secure in the knowledge that the man will look at the luggage, yell and scream a bit and then hoist it all up with his sturdy capable hands. My hands, on the other side, are delicate. They are not meant for hauling up sturdy luggage filled to the sit on and zip up point with clothes I might need, and with matching shoes to go with the ensembles.

This time round I need to be economical with my packing. Therefore the eradication. Multitasking clothes, which can be rolled up and packed and worn without the fear of them looking slept in when I unroll them and pour myself in them. Jeans. A lot of them. Sturdy walking shoes for when I need to walk. And a couple of comfortable wedgeheels for when I dont. One fancy top and trouser combo if there is ever an opportunity for an evening out. Infinite clothes for the child given his propensity to go through clothes like an army of termites let loose in a library. Medicines. Lots of it. For every possible ailment.  I’m making my lists. In excel files.  I need to pack with a list. If it is not on the list I dont put anything inside, even necessities like toothbrushes, never mind if I spend the first night at my destination using my finger with toothpaste smeared on it to clean the surfaces of my dental fixtures.

Wish me luck. I need to cram in three weeks worth of clothes and essentials into one duffel bag and a strolley, which is the only reasonable amount of luggage I can manage and still have a hand left to grab the child’s.

Now my lipstick can poison me

As anyone who knows me in the remotest way knows, I will only be seen in public without my reliable slash of lipstick in two cases, the first if I have been forced to leave home in the event of a raging fire, or the second, if I am dead. Change the second one, I might still ask the mortuary attendants to daub on some Fawn Fatale on them lips before they put me up for display. No point looking more ghoulish than I already do look.  As I’ve mentioned many times before, the natural colour of them lips is a dirty pale colourless non colour that would have a Goth modelling herself on a corpse ecstatic but only provokes concerned queries on my health from anyone who sees me divested of lipstick. Hell, I’ve been known to slick some lipstick on even before being catherised and wheeled into operating theatres. And ensuring it coordinated with the nail polish.

So when news reports tell me that the percentage on lead in the lipstick I use is beyond permissible limits and can make me sick and dead, I sigh deeply. And sadly. And what is worse, the cheaper brands (which one always avoids like the plague because one assumes that the cheaper ones will have ingredients which are untested on anything human or animal and are guaranteed to scorch your skin off, causing an allergic reaction that will then need me to take my discoloured skin to a dermatologist, are better than them fancy ones that I need to pluck my teeth out in order to sell if I want to buy them, my faith in humanity and mankind is shaken to the core.

What does a girl do now if she wants to have her lips look alluring and seductive and appealing, and have the man in her life hang onto every word that comes out of her mouth? Natural lip colours? Natural brands? or do we go back to the ancients and study their methods of colouring lips, recreating them in our kitchens and slathering them on?

Or should one bring the Ghost that Walks look into vogue? Nah, I’m sticking to my lippers. At last count I had two big boxes full of lipsticks, given that I pick up one new lipstick whenever the mood is in a deep dark funk. I have the blood reds, the chocolates, the berries, the mochas, the caramels, the lattes and the entire directory of food inspired names given to make us hapless women hope that one slathering of said colour would make us look dropped straight down from heaven, albeit sans the hoorpari costume. As for lead poisoning, you think I have a case to slap the makers of said lipsticks with a multimillion dollar suit? Given I’ve been using them lipsticks since I was 16, and am still alive and kicking and with no symptoms yet, except of course, mild dementia?

Five things that disappear just when you need them…

Tagged for this by my Suki baby, who recently has begun twittering incessantly in French and therefore gets me all in a lather about whether my half remembered school college French will allow me to make twitter conversation with her.

Anyway, keep my apprehensions about my very rudimentary French aside, here are five things that disappear just when I need them.

1] The spouse. Guaranteed to disappear when required. Especially if we are in a store with me in a trying on infinite outfits and shopping for home linen mood.

2] The waiter at which ever restaurant I happen to be at if I want to send back the cold soup to be reheated.

3] The mobile. I have stuck my head into my bag or emptied out all the contents onto a flat soft surface more times than I care to count to find the damn ball and chain from hell.

4] Breathmints. The ones I always keep in my bag. Because I am so paranoid about bad breath, specially post a meal. And need to chew on something, even a clove to feel fit to go forth into human company without being terrified of slaying folks left right and centre with the fumes emanating from my mouth.

5] Sanitary napkins. I know I have stock in my cupboard. And will be sitting complacent in the knowledge that there is pack somewhere. And Aunty Flo will hit in all her ferocity, and I will mince my way gingerly to said cupboard to find that the brand new pack, has winged itself away to the land where the single socks from the wash congregate. Then I have to manage with makeshift contraptions, and run to the nearest chemist before I can stride out confidently again.  Anyone solving the mystery of the disappearing sanitary napkin pack gets my undying gratitude and a lifetime supply of said packs.

And I pass this tag out to

Imps Mom

Gauri

OJ

Rohini

Moppets Mom

Haffun Gurls!

Busy weekend coming up

Like all weekends have been in the recent past, I am sure this weekend too has been designed with the express purpose of compelling me to take a break post weekend. If you catch me snoring at my desk on Monday, you know what was to blame. Saturday starts with an India Helps meeting where I plan to make the most of my gourmand skills. In fact, the fact on Friday (today) couldnt have come on a better day seeing as I will be starving and raring at the rope to have a go at the buffet. Eat your heart out folks, we are headed to Barbeque Nation. Portion control can wait another day, and I am wearing elastic waisted pants.

Sunday is a birthday party I have to attend with the child. At Pizza Hut. My last experience at Pizza Hut hasnt been satisfying to the appetite. This time round I hope the hostess is sensitive to my dietary requirements and ensures there is enough to go around. I shall, nonetheless, ask my cook to make some extra food for me at home just in case I return with a rumbling stuff and a grumbling mood.

I also need to start shopping for my trip to Pahad land which is now shifted into May. Which I am told is the exact right time to hit Delhi in its best in order to experience true natural sauna and lose multiple kilos by just trying to get out and shop. But I’ve heard too many nice things about Sarojini Market and Janpath and Connaught Place to keep away. Therefore, I might be haunting the streets of Lokhandwala market over the weekend to pick up stuff to be gifted to friends and family I will be visited. If I am good, I might even sneak in some shopping for myself, but shhhh. Dont tell anyone.

Be good folks. See you on the other side of the break.

And here’s the cherry on the ice cream

 

 

 

Monika of www.monikamanchanda.wordpress.com gave me this. Its suddenly raining awards. And I’m greedily getting soaked in the rain. Thankee, Monika, am honoured.

Now for the Rules
1. Thank the person that gave this to you
2. Copy the award and put it on your blog.
3. List 3 things you love about yourself
4. Post a picture you love (e.g a person you adore etc.)
5. Tag 5 people you wish to pass this award on to

Since I have already done the first two, I need to list out three things that I love about myself.

A friend recently, sickened by my constant jibes at myself, had asked me to list out five things about myself that I liked, and surprise, surprise, I shot them off without a moment’s hesitation.

1] I love my vanity. It keeps me on the straight and narrow and gets me walking and watching what I eat when the pounds start piling on.

2] I love my optimism. I always believe its not the end of the world. Yet. No matter what happens.

3] I love my honesty. I can be counted on to hurt people by being blunt and then apologise one zillion times until I wish I could become an Ellen Jamesian (The World According to Garp, anyone), and never need to say a thing that could be taken the wrong way ever. But if you want to know if you look fat in that skirt, dont ask me.

Now for the fourth point, I need to post a picture that I love:

The son and me at his 6th birthday party.

This picture is recent precious because it suddenly hit me, at this party, that my baby is big boy now, and struggles to wriggle away when I hold him for a photograph.

And to tag five friends I think deserve this award:

All that Jazz

Asaan

Birds Eye View

Indian Home Maker

Maid in Malaysia.

Get to it, girls, I will get down to linking the blogs and tagging you in a bit. Promise. Cross my heart. Deadlines beckon now.

Award time…

Priya Iyer, who blogs here, has decided in her infinite wisdom that I am worthy of not one, but two awards. Both at the same time. Hand over the smelling salts please. Yes, the floor will need to be retiled, to repair the damage caused when I keeled over with the shock. But since awards are in scarce supply these days, I must confess, I am delighted, honoured, and am going to brag till everyone’s ears fall off about them awards.  I would have also done a wee acceptance speech, thanking everyone from my nursery school teacher who recognised my potential when I was just graduating from Capital letter formation to lower case heirogylphs, to the mater who is convinced I am wasting my life blogging and twittering it away, this is proof that all this is not in vain, history shall remember me as an eminent blogger with at least two awards to my credit.

Here they are:

For the honest scrap award, I need to list out ten honest to goodness things about myself that no one knows about, and I promise I will not speak about my nosehair turning white. And I need to pass this on to ten other bloggers.

The Beautiful Blogger award I need to pass on to bloggers I feel are beautiful, metaphorically speaking of course, since physical beauty is something one cannot vouch for in this online world.

So here goes the Honest scrap:

1] I need my undisturbed sleep. If you wake me up without there being a life and death situation to excuse yourself for the gustaki, prepare to have your head bitten off.

2] As I grow older, I find I am getting less concerned about my appearance. I even, gasp, get out of the house with chipped nailpolish.

3] I hate cooking with a passion which is balanced by my love for good food. Therefore, I make a great dinner guest who does full justice to a meal.

4] After 14 years of marriage, and six years of courtship, my heart still does a flip flop when the spouse walks into the room.

5] I am a cruel mom. I believe in tough love.

6] I havent shopped in over six months. I de-addicted myself cold turkey.

7] I am totally OCD about colour coded piles of clothes in my cupboard. I arrange my sons, my husbands and mine cupboard so precisely that I can immediately make out if a random hand has snuck into any.

8] I must walk for an hour every single day. Unless its a day I’m taking being bone lazy seriously.

9] I pray every night before sleeping. I fast on Fridays. I visit Mahim church for Wednesday novenas. I visit the temple on Saturdays. I’m getting religious in my old age.

10] I cannot swim, cycle, drive.

I pass this on to:

Itchingtowriteblogs

Dotmom

Poppins Mom

Aneela of Golkamra

Sscribbles

Chandni

Ceekay

Gauri

Broom

Choxbox

And now for the beautiful Blogger award

Dipali

OrangeJammies

Surabhish

Tharini

(To be continued)

Of buffets eaten in the past week….

The past week has been one that has redefined the meaning of gluttony. The new description, as will be entered in the dictionary in future will be,  Gluttony: Kiran at a buffet table. Possibly holding a plate which has every square millimeter of surface space covered by variants of edible stuff called food, especially of the dead animal variety, and needing physical assistance from the serving staff in order to convey said plate back to the table she will be seated on.

Three lunches last week. The first, a lunch at Machchan, which is like a straight jump from my balcony away. The second, a veg thali lunch at Sabkuch ki Thali near Inorbit and the third, at On Toes. Which is a jump and half away from my balcony. Why such a limited radius of eating out joints, you might ask, and justifiably so. The rationale is simple, come hell or high water, or being physically evicted from the premises for eating them out of food, I need to morph back into a school gate mom by 2.30pm. Which leaves me very little time to actually savour and relish every morself. Which means I am a poor lunch companion because all I do is eat, eat, eat, eat, and eat with the ferocity of one who doesnt want time to run out and then sit rueing the fact that she couldnt hit the dessert counter with enough time to spare.

The week began with a birthday party I escorted the child to, at Papa Johns. I am not even going to mention the calories ingested in form of Pizzas, garlic wedges, cake and icecream. Suffice to say, if I total this week’s calorific indulgence, I should go immediately to dieter’s hell, and burn in my own cellulite till eternity.

Machchan for those who asked, or will ask, is a not to be recommended. I know, I know, I am the one who has written paeons to its magnificent buffets in times of yore, but this time round was when the penny dropped. I went for a lunch buffet, not a weekend dinner buffet when theyre all shiny and sparkly and at their best. The soup was cold. And no it was not the soup you’re supposed to have cold. Gazpacho. Vichysoisse. Nope. This was Chicken Shorba. It is needed piping hot. I would have forgiven them that. The starters they served us post the soup, which we all sent back to the kitchen to be warmed up for your kind information, had icicles growing on them. We suspected they had been leftovers  from the previous night’s buffet and had been regurgitated from the confines of their industrial size freezer direct to our table without the grace of being passed through a heating pan in between. And this was one pm. The start of the buffet. We gently asked for the manager to be brought to us. We resisted with great self control from asking for heads to roll. We voiced our disapproval about the standards of service which had fallen way beyond any redeemable levels. He bowed and scraped a bit, with graciousness, and promised to rectify the temperature of the items being brought to the table, and the next round had, voila, cold starters with icicles growing on them served to us by an increasingly resentful waiter who just kept dumping them on our plates regardless of our frantic protests of not wanting any.

We gave up and proceeded to the buffet table. 1.15pm. The serving containers of most dishes were empty or had been emptied out and not refilled. We dwaddled near the items of interest to us, mopping the drool involuntarily slipping down our chins as we read the names of the dishes, most of which were not in evidence within the serving dishes, and exhorted the waiters to get them where they were supposed to be in order that the paying public could serve themselves. I grew some roots waiting for the edible stuff to emerge from the kitchen. The friends uprooted me and convinced me that time was running out, we might as well make the best of what was available. We had to make do with the few items which were available in the serving dishes, and even had to share some because there wasnt enough to go around. The saving grace, the Mango mousse. We handed over our money with great reluctance and the feeling that maybe, we should have been paid for eating there.

The next was the Veg Thali at Sabkuch ki Thali near Inorbit. The best part about eating at this Thali place is the genuine interest with which they feed you. And feed you and feed you. Unlike Rajdhani which is more popular but, am sorry to say, makes you feel like theyre doing you a great favour by allowing you to sit and eat, and make you feel you need to race through your meal and vacate the table pronto for the next batch of refugees to be doled out their rations.

 I am of the school of thought that you need to leave a clean plate. Aka, a plate which does not have any food left over on it. Therefore, by the end of the meal, I was guarding my plate as diligently as them studious types do at examinations with arms blocking their answer sheets to thwart the valiant efforts of them unprepared types looking for a quick and easy way to copy themselves through to pass marks. And the aam ras. I think I drank down one months worth of calories within ten minutes. If I could go there purely for the gluttony of unlimited aamras I would.

The last buffet was at On Toes. Simple buffet. All piping hot. Well served. Nothing to write home about. Value for money. And a full stomach. Tonight is dinner at a dear friend’s home, and am starving myself in anticipation in order to do the food justice, to deem me worthy of being invited. Tomorrow is a Pizza Hut birthday party, where no doubt, I will ingest, amongst others, garlic wedges, pizza, cake and drink gallons of a carbonated beverage which will cause my teeth to rot and fall out, and make some dentist put in his marble flooring in his weekend cottage at Alibag. Sunday has Easter lunch at the mater’s, which will have my stomach expand like a helium balloon in order to accommodate the spread of my all time favourites that the mater, will no doubt, spend hours slaving over, and which I must demolish to see her happy and content.

To balance all this out, I have been skipping them full meals at home, substituting fruits like grapes, watermelon etc for meals, and brisk walking a solid hour every single day. Nonetheless, my sins will catch up with me. I need pants with elasticated waists. I grow old, I grow old, I will wear my trousers with my fat rolls.


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