Thank you G, for this lovely forward…

Shamelessly cut pasting this forward from Gauri, because it was so simple and made so much sense. Adding my two cents to each points I felt I had something to add to:

 1. Anger is a condition in which the tongue, works faster than the mind.

The tongue is a very strong muscle and perhaps amongst the most hardworking in our body. Cut it some slack. Think before you speak. If you cant find anything good to say about a person, dont say anything.

   2. You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying
   over the future.

The future will come soon enough. Worrying about it will not change it.

   3. Love… and you will be loved.

But loved without the expectation of being loved in return. Love because you love. Be true to that.

   4. All people smile in the same language.

And some folks know more languages than the rest.

   5. A hug is a great gift, one size fits all. It can be given for any
   occasion and it’s easy to exchange.

But bewarned, some folks are very touchy about their personal space, therefore, do not go around hugging folks randomly unless you want to be swatted off by irate folk squealing about invasions into personal space. And this is not applicable for men trying to cop a feel by hugging random women. Thank you.

   6. Everyone needs to be loved, especially when they do not deserve it.

Well, some folks are the exception to this rule.

   7. The real measure of a man’s wealth is what he has invested in

I have invested nothing in eternity. I invest all of myself in my today.

   8. Laughter is liquid sunshine.

It warms the heart and melts coldness.

   9. Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it.

Some folks make it hard for me to believe in this. But I try.

   10. It’s important for parents to live the same things they teach.

This includes eating up all the vegetables on your plate.

   11. If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of
   tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.

You live in the today. Yesterday is past. Tomorrow is unsure, the only thing you have for sure is your today. Live it the way you want to. So that you have no regrets for tomorrow.

   12. Happy memories never wear out. Relive them as often as you want.

This is a motivational trick. Whenever you have a tough day ahead of you, think back of the good times and good memories when you go off to sleep the night before. You sleep in a good mood, you wake up positively charged and refreshed, and you are set to make more good memories.

   13. Home is the place where we grumble the most, but are often treated
   the best.

No comments on this one.

   14. The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.

I choose to eat a pastry today. It will settle on my hips tomorrow and multiply into orange peel lumps. Thats a choice I make to satisfy my sugar and fatty comfort food craving.

   15. Take time to laugh for it is the music of the soul.

Yup. Laugh often. It releases feel good endorphins. Is good for the facial muscles. Makes you look approachable if you’re in the market for a date. And makes people gravitate towards you, unless you do the banshee number with shrill pitch and inappropriate context, in which case, be prepared for folks to edge to the door when you enter a room.

   16. If anyone speaks badly of you, live so none will believe it.

Or live so badly that no matter what they say of you, truth will always be worse. Or stop caring what people say of you and live your life to be true to yourself.

   17. Patience is the ability to idle your motor, when you feel like
   stripping your gears.

Patience is the ability to wait for the sales to happen when you see that “I must have it now” pair of shoes you could kill to lay your mitts on.

   18. Love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.

Or saying sorry and moving on.

   19. The best thing parents can do for their children, is to love each

We try to live that. I came from a home which was all but split. And I hated that my parents tried to be together to give me a stable childhood. I hope I can give my child better.

   20. Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.

Or keep your words soft, because you never know when you might be forced to eat them. I do try to not be hurtful in my words. Blunt. Yes. Straight talking, yes, but never personal or sarcastic or harsh. Because I still mull over some harsh words I have heard decades ago, bringing them out of the attic during PMS to masticate over them, relive the hurt, come up with the perfect comeback, and know my relationship with the ones who have said them words was never ever the same ever again.

   21. To get out of a difficulty, one usually must go through it.

I think of this as labour and exams. You and only you can go through it. No one else can do it for you. So grit your teeth and get down to it.

   22. We take for granted the things that we should be giving thanks for.

A fully functional body. A spouse who is rock solid. A child who lights up my everyday. Friends who are a phone call away in moments of crisis. A mother who is my backbone. For these I thank the Lord.

   23. Love is the only thing that can be divided, without being diminished.

Anyone who has more than one kid would know this.
   24. Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.

Make your own happiness. Find happiness in the simplest things. The smile of your child. A dish well prepared. An outfit that fits well. The setting sun. The flower blooming in a well maintained garden. The pleasure of finding jeans that fit well.  Make your own happiness lists and do one thing everyday that brings you joy. And if it is eating icecream by the tub, so be it.

   25. You are richer today if you have laughed, given or forgiven.

I laugh. I laugh a lot. I’m so rich, I should be in the billionaires list. Seriously, everything seems tolerable if you can laugh at it. Except bills and a root canal. For that you need GA.

   26. For every minute you are angry with someone, you lose 60 seconds of
   happiness that you can never get back.

Gah. I have sure been handing out happiness to the ethers these past few months.  The hubby and I have now made a pact not to speak about issues which we cannot change, but have to live with, because they make us so angry, right at the start of the day, that we end up stomping into work each morning like bulls starved, poked and released into the ring.

   27. Do what you can, for whom you can, with what you have, and where you

I agree. That is the philosophy behind India Helps. Do what you can, however little and insignificant you think it might be. In your own way. It is enough. If everyone does a little, it all adds up to a whole lot.


About Kiran Manral

Kiran Manral published her first book, The Reluctant Detective in 2011. Since then, she has published eight books across genres till date. Her books include romance and chicklit with Once Upon A Crush (2014), All Aboard (2015), Saving Maya (2017); horror with The Face at the Window (2016) and nonfiction with Karmic Kids (2015), A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up (2016) and True Love Stories (2017). Her short stories have been published on Juggernaut, in magazines like Verve and Cosmopolitan, and have been part of anthologies like Chicken Soup for the Soul, Have a Safe Journey (2017) and Boo (2017). Her articles and columns have appeared in the Times of India, Tehelka, DNA, Yowoto, Shethepeople, New Woman, Femina, Verve, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Conde Nast Traveller, DB Post, The Telegraph, the Asian Age, iDiva, TheDailyO and more. She was shortlisted for the Femina Women Awards 2017 for Literary Contribution. She is a TEDx speaker and a mentor with Vital Voices Global Mentoring Walk 2017.
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8 Responses to Thank you G, for this lovely forward…

  1. Nova says:

    Beautiful 🙂


  2. Anamika says:

    and also…

    5. Hug only if you are confident you dont smell bad. Seriously. Please.

    17. Your commment touched a raw nerve. Those Steve Madden beauties…gladiators, my size, on sale and I didn’t buy them. Was it patience or foolishness?

    The rest…Of course you are right on all of them. Lovely post.


  3. Sonia says:

    Very nice. Thanks for sharing 🙂


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