I enter the 40th year today….

Still 39. Small consolation. Felt low for an entire week thinking about the turn of the decade and almost crawled into a hole thinking intensely negative thoughts of the kind that make one take a blade to one’s wrists and make sure the edge isnt blunt, and you have enough towels to mop up the mess, rather risking staining the handmade tiles…you know.

Today, am back to sanity. It is, after all just another number. I feel in my mid twenties. I dont know about how my face is defining my age, thats for the others around me to say, but I’m yet unbotoxed, unlifted, unpeeled. Thats the skin and the body I am. And I’m darned proud of it. If I look into the mirror and wince at my reflection, I might go out and get myself ‘done’, but I dont see that day coming for a while. And of course, I think of what happened to Koena Mitra and would rather sit tight on my spreading butt.

So I’ve decided. I need to count my blessings today. And think of what all I have done in my life to make me proud of myself.

I have a lovely son, a spouse who loves me in the most uncommunicative way, a mother who adores me and thinks the sun still shines out of my spreading butt.

I have a team of friends who work with me on India Helps and are willing to give time, energy and of themselves to make this an effort that is truly commendable.

I have a warm and inviting home that is my refuge and my strength.

I have a body that is cared for, fit and active. And a mind that refuses to stay still and not think up new things I could take up.

I have tons of friends who call me and are concerned about me, and take time out to meet me.

And I have the rest of my life ahead of me……

Happy birthday to me. Age is just a number. Yes, truly. And I shall now refuse to define myself by my age.


About Kiran Manral

Kiran Manral published her first book, The Reluctant Detective in 2011. Since then, she has published eight books across genres till date. Her books include romance and chicklit with Once Upon A Crush (2014), All Aboard (2015), Saving Maya (2017); horror with The Face at the Window (2016) and nonfiction with Karmic Kids (2015), A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up (2016) and True Love Stories (2017). Her short stories have been published on Juggernaut, in magazines like Verve and Cosmopolitan, and have been part of anthologies like Chicken Soup for the Soul, Have a Safe Journey (2017) and Boo (2017). Her articles and columns have appeared in the Times of India, Tehelka, DNA, Yowoto, Shethepeople, New Woman, Femina, Verve, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Conde Nast Traveller, DB Post, The Telegraph, the Asian Age, iDiva, TheDailyO and more. She was shortlisted for the Femina Women Awards 2017 for Literary Contribution. She is a TEDx speaker and a mentor with Vital Voices Global Mentoring Walk 2017.
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61 Responses to I enter the 40th year today….

  1. Happy birthday!!!!!You are right, 40 is just a number!You rock!

    Thank you akka….


  2. Happy Birthday, Kiran 🙂 That’s a lovely list of people and things to have earned before 40!

    You’re one of the most vivacious personalities around blogosphere. If not for the URL, nobody would know your age! And I don’t mean there’s anything bad about being 39.. it IS just a number.

    LOL. Yup, 39 is just a number….thank you for those lovely words..


  3. Karthik S says:

    Wish you a very Happy Birthday 🙂

    Thank you so much Karthik!


  4. Gymnast says:

    And you have me who hasn’t met you yet , but thinks the world of you!

    Happy Birthday Kiran , you’re awesome.

    Here’s wishing you lots and lots of happiness and many more beautiful years to come..

    Awww, thank you so much…


  5. anna says:

    happy birthday kiran. pl let me tell you that is is more difficult to turm 30 and 40 than 50. so they say. it was true for me. im 50 plus and found myself more accepting and comfortable about myself after the big five oh! i love that you are counting your blessings. good luck and may the rest of your life be even more fulfilling and happy. more power to you!

    Thank you Anna, will take your words to heart…the best is yet to come.


  6. Rani says:

    Wish you a great year ahead Kiran!

    A very happy birthday! 🙂

    Thank you so much Rani!


  7. Homecooked says:

    Wish you a Very Happy Birthday Kiran!

    Thank you Homecooked!


  8. Tara says:

    Happy Birthday! 40s is the new 30s!

    Thank you Tara…


  9. Shruti says:

    Happy birthday kiran 🙂 .. here’s wishing that ur list of things to be thankful for n happy about keep increasing manyfolds.

    Thank you so much Shruti!


  10. Banno says:

    Happy Birthday!

    Thanks Banno!


  11. Anon says:

    Happy birthday!

    Thank you so much.


  12. Batul says:

    You don’t sound like a 40 y.o :)… Happy Birthday Kiran

    Psst, tell me quick, what do 40 year olds sound like…. LOL. Thank you Batul!


  13. Aathira says:

    Happy Birthday!

    Wishing you youth and health always!

    Thank you so much Aathira…


  14. Meira says:

    If you’re turning 40, then the 40s are the age to be. Yes maam, you rock. Happy birthday 🙂

    Thank you Meira…


  15. Asha says:

    Happy happy birthday!! 🙂

    Thank you Asha!


  16. Chips says:

    Happy Birthday, Kiran! The 40s certainly rock, so don’t you worry. Wishing you good health and all the books, bags and baubles (and shoes) your heart desires.

    LOL, thank you…am certainly starting on the bag shopping today…


  17. Rupa says:

    Happy Birthday Kiran! way to go girl…you truly rock and dont bother about something that is defined by numbers….you are young at heart…thats the spirit 🙂
    Enjoy your day !

    Thank you so much Rupa..


  18. shilpa says:

    Happy Birthday Kiran. Tum jeeyo hazaaron saal, saal ke din ho pachaas hazaaar 😀

    Awww, thanks Shilpa.


  19. mukul says:

    When I read this post, I was instantly flooded by memories of an episode from FRIENDS where in all of them recall; how each one of them reacted when they turned 30. Here you are lady, lucky that you are getting similar thoughts when you turn 40.You are still young at heart(from your written word is all i can guess). So keep the numbers at bay and do what you do the best.
    WRITE,BLOG,LIVE life to its fullest.
    Happy birthday to a lady who owns such a wonderful blog.

    Thank you so much for those lovely words Mukul…


  20. Sue says:

    And even if you did feel defined by your age — 39 rocks! Or so the ex-39ers tell me. 😉

    Sue, you give me hope…


  21. Shilpa says:

    Birthday Wishes frm a 40 plus lady..:D

    Thank you Shilpa….


  22. divya says:

    happy birthday kiran 🙂 i hope you have a truly wonderful year ahead

    Thank you so much Divya…


  23. Deepti says:

    Hey Kiran,
    wishing you happy birthday here too 🙂
    Yours truly,
    the shameless delurker from twitter 😀

    Thank you Deepti, and why shameless, I love that you’ve delurked…


  24. Many happy returns of the day Kiran 🙂

    40 rocks…It really does, I know I was 40 once 🙂

    LOL. I intend to rock and roll through my 40s too!


  25. M says:

    Happy Birthday! From the perspective of someone who turned 40 last year – life is fine! and no different really from what it was at 24 or 29 or even 39!


    I’m going to take your word for it, am slowly getting myself used to fact that it is 39 over with. 40 underway now.


  26. dipali says:

    That’s my girl! Have a wonderful birthday and a great year ahead.

    Thanks doosi naani!


  27. Ceeann says:

    Happy Birthday!

    Thank you Ceeann!


  28. CA says:

    Happy Birthday Kiran !

    Thank you CA


  29. Gigi says:

    Agree with the above commenter about 30 being the bigger shock. 🙂
    You are in the prime of life so here’s to a great year ahead!
    Happy Birthday to you Kiran! Keep writing…

    Thank you so much Gigi


  30. Doli says:

    Happy Bday Kiran! I hope you had a lovely day and you shd be damn proud of yourself for raising such a lovely boy 🙂 I love his antics!!

    Thank you Doli. My boy makes me proud every single day.


  31. kenny says:

    Happy Birthday Birthday Gal! Rock it on!!

    Thanks Kenny, how you doing girl?


  32. Just Someone says:

    Happy Birthday!!!

    You rock!!! You are awesome:)

    Lovely post – have a great year ahead!

    Thank you so much!


  33. Shilpa says:

    I just wished a happy birthday & it dint get published..anything wrong with a simple wish?

    Err, surely you didnt expect me to be sitting at the comp, moderating comments on my birthday evening? But, thank you once again for your wishes…


  34. R's Mom says:

    Wish you a very belated happy birthday :):) sorry for the late comment!! Just curious..did you get your list of stuff you wanted for the bday ???

    Nope but I got a lot of stuff that I still liked…..


  35. LOL! Kiran- I thought on your b’day we are supposed to pamper you! it’s happening the other way around – Shilpa???
    Happy Birthday again Kiran!!

    Thanks for the wishes Itchy!


  36. Happy b’day Kiran! Here’s wishing you health, happiness and good people!

    ps : It’s a joy to read your blog 🙂

    Thank you so much…


  37. Ramya says:

    Wish you a fantabulous birthday.May the dawn of this new decade shower you with joy, success , good health. Love and Hugs to Krish..

    Thank you so much Ramya!


  38. Vidya says:

    A little late I know.. Still, wishing you lovely, healthy years ahead:) Hopped in from your Karmickids space..

    Thank you Vidya


  39. starsinmeyes says:

    Happy budday to the coolest 40th year woman I know!

    Awww, thankee.


  40. Timepass says:

    Belated bday wishes Kiran..the wishes may be belated but very sincere….

    Thank you Timepass.


  41. lets take it off from the blog url and the title first kiran..heres wishing you a wonderful day and future ahead 🙂

    If you look closely dear, the blog’s title has been 39 and counting for a while now. Cant change the URL… Alas


  42. myamusingmind says:

    Very Happy Birthday!


  43. Shilpa says:

    @Kiran..We have 8.30 hrs timezone diff. so when comment took real long..just asked..outta plain curiosity..nuthing else…!

    @itchingtowrite..thanx for paying attention to my comment..:)


  44. Cee Kay says:

    Belated budday wishes K darling! Skidding in to register my wishes 😀

    I know you will rock the 40s. Go girl!!

    Thanks Behenaaa!


  45. Eveslungs says:

    Normally we leave comments and forget about them. How does it matter when she uploaded the comment,Shipa ?It was K’s birthday so maybe she had other things to do rather than sit at home and check out her blog ?


  46. Mads says:

    Happy Birthday Kiran!! Wishing you the best!

    Thank you Mads!


  47. Sands says:

    Happy b’day Kiran. Have a lovely day and a spectacular year. You have many of us in the same boat keeping you company 🙂

    Thank you Sands!


  48. Pallavi says:

    Haaappeeeeeee buddday, Kiran!! Rock the 40s.
    I’ll be turning 30 in a few months, and am not so sure I’m bothered by it. It just give incentive to yell “I’m 30, and wiser than you!” at anyone who’s even a day younger than me. (Let’s not burst my bubble here, shall we?)

    Thirty…you have a lifetime ahead of you…… *runs away quick*


  49. Pallavi says:

    …it just gives me incentive, I meant. Typos, argh!


  50. Prettywoman says:

    Happy birthday to you…
    Happy birthday to you…
    Happy birthday dear Kiran
    Happy birthday to you…

    I am singing loudly here…can you hear me?

    Have a wonderful year ahead! You are 40??!!! You got to be kidding now!

    LOL, thank you for the singing, and the wishes…


  51. Tina says:

    Hey Kiran,

    Wishing you a wonderful birthday.. after all Life begins at 40..
    Heres to more pearls of wisdom from you 🙂

    Thank you, and gah…I dont think I could pretend to have any pearls of wisdom…


  52. Aarabi says:

    happy birthday lady!

    this one is for you! http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/a-lady-who-thinks-she-is-thirty/

    Thank you so much…


  53. K says:

    happy birthday to you.

    Thank you.


  54. Bhavna says:

    come on Kiran.

    40s is the new 30s. Ask Demi Moore and the hot new mom’s on Page 3. It is just a number.

    (bites nails nervously..) its not very far off for me too

    I think we need to make the 40s the new 20s…


  55. CS says:

    Hi Kiran,

    Belated birthday wishes. I am sure you had a fabulous time with your family on your birthday. Please tell me ,40 is new twenty right?. I will be watching this space for all the advise and wisdom . Just kidding. I enjoy reading this blog . Going thru a journey in life just like yours. Never knew that we can relate to somebody so well without meeting them. The blogging world has made it possible.

    Give my hugs to your little guy.


    Thank you so much….


  56. Sonia says:

    Happy Birthday Kiran!!!!!!! You still look fabulous girl with your Dimple Kapadia hair!! And you have us too – add to your list – your devoted fans :))

    Awww. thank you.


  57. Rajita says:

    You will be turning 50 and more in a blink. So spare the despair for then 🙂
    – From a 36 something who still feels like a 20 something

    🙂 LOL. I can be totally relaxed by 50 if I finish with the despair now…


  58. Prasad says:

    Belated happy birthday girl (Yup!..age is just a number:D) !!!!!!! 🙂

    Have nothing more to say,, Loved this blog.

    Honoured.. and thank you…


  59. Jyothy says:

    Belated happy b’day Kiran.

    Love your blog


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