What do women want

Blogadda is running a contest on what women want. The question is tough. Countless men and women have tried to answer it and failed. At the start of course, the primeval woman wanted the apple. And the primeval man gave it to her. Ergo, one presumes that the woman wants, and the man gives to be a pattern established way back when God created man. The man had his role defined early on. He provided. He took care.

Seriously though, what do women want. What would a man do if he knew. Ask Mel Gibson. He played Nick Marshall in What Women Want. He pretty much went berserk. Erica Jong said it much better in her book than I could ever, so go read it if you really want to know. This is what I know:

Women want men who want them. Thats what women want. Seriously.

I dont mean the tongue hanging out, follow like a puppy dog kind of want. I mean the kind of want that has a man take his heart out and hand it over without reservations, and love, protect and honour his woman for the rest of her life. A woman wants a man who has the balls to come over and tell her he finds her attractive, instead of hanging around giving her the glad eye with no chance of an introduction. A woman wants a man who will fight for her, who will stave off other suitors and win her. We still somewhere are little girls brought up on myths of princesses being saved from the evil witch by a prince. We want to believe we are worth rescuing.

A woman wants a guy who doesnt bore the socks off her by talking only about work or his hobby or some sport he is crazy about.

When she marries a man, a woman wants a provider. This is controversial, and I’m sure to get flack for this, so the disclaimer, this is my personal opinion. I want a provider. Someone to provide the bread and butter, and I can bring home the jam. Because I am taking my time out from career building to have a child and bring him up, I need to know my needs will be taken care of.

A woman wants respect. Her opinions to be taken into consideration. Her day asked after. Her tiredness acknowledged. Her beauty complimented. Her efforts at making a home appreciated.

A woman wants a man she can lean on, a man who can fight off goons to keep her safe in a rough situation. A home she can call her own. Children she can be proud of, who bring her joy and respect her. Friends she can turn to anytime day or night in a crisis, friends she can count on to see her through tough times, as she would for them.

A woman wants a mother she can turn to for unconditional love and support as she becomes a mother herself, to help her through her uncertainties.

A woman wants her man to make her feel special, by look, touch and behaviour. If she feels special for him, she will move the earth and fake multiple orgasms to make him happy. Which brings me to another point, a woman wants a man who isnt wham bam thank you maam. A man who doesnt turn around and start snoring. A man who will make her get butterflies in her stomach when he walks into a room. Even if they’ve been married 15 years.

A woman wants a man who will sit and talk with her occasionally instead of devoting his focussed attention to the telly or the newspapers. A woman wants a child who will come home and tell her his or her day, a child who keeps her involved in his or her life, and will take time out in her old age to make sure she is taken care of.

Women also want good health. A calm mind. Enough money to pay the bills. And a little more to splurge on herself.

And most of all, a woman wants to be loved for who she is. Cellulite and all. And even through her worst Virago PMSing days. Β And she will love back in the same way. Unconditionally.


About Kiran Manral

Kiran Manral published her first book, The Reluctant Detective in 2011. Since then, she has published eight books across genres till date. Her books include romance and chicklit with Once Upon A Crush (2014), All Aboard (2015), Saving Maya (2017); horror with The Face at the Window (2016) and nonfiction with Karmic Kids (2015), A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up (2016) and True Love Stories (2017). Her short stories have been published on Juggernaut, in magazines like Verve and Cosmopolitan, and have been part of anthologies like Chicken Soup for the Soul, Have a Safe Journey (2017) and Boo (2017). Her articles and columns have appeared in the Times of India, Tehelka, DNA, Yowoto, Shethepeople, New Woman, Femina, Verve, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Conde Nast Traveller, DB Post, The Telegraph, the Asian Age, iDiva, TheDailyO and more. She was shortlisted for the Femina Women Awards 2017 for Literary Contribution. She is a TEDx speaker and a mentor with Vital Voices Global Mentoring Walk 2017.
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40 Responses to What do women want

  1. aneela z says:

    mujhey tau maa chahiye


  2. Chakshu says:

    Beautifully written Kiran! I as a woman want to have the time to read such beautiful stuff everyday πŸ™‚


  3. I want to feel like my dreams and my freedom figure in the equation. And yes, I want to be able to make mistakes and learn from them without being guilted. That, for me, is love πŸ™‚


  4. Rani says:

    So beautifully written.
    I second every word here. Yes, I want that all too.



  5. Mystic says:

    I may not want a provider, but if I am the provider, I expect my man to take over the household and if we’re both bringing in the moolah, then I expect him to split the household stuff 50:50 without behaving like it’s a huge ass favor.

    I’m with you on all the rest, and for all of us who have a man like this, I think Big Thanks to the powers up above are in order πŸ™‚

    And that is so goddam tough…the spouse is totally useless at household tasks. Thats the conditioning. I resolve to ensure my son doesnt grow up like that.


  6. suranga says:

    Right on, lady ! Great post. Agree 100%


  7. Beautiful.. loved it. writing is very fresh.. πŸ™‚


  8. Tara says:

    Nicely written..very well put together..I would definitely want a lot of respect for my beliefs from people who matter most to me..parents, kids, friends, spouse, in laws. I can live with differences but cannot live with disrespect.



  9. Gypsy Girl says:

    I simbly lowweee this post!


  10. ayushrastogi says:

    very nice post πŸ™‚


  11. Rupa says:

    Kiran, you’ve hit the nail….loved it.

    Thank you..


  12. Rupa says:

    sorry type mistake….you’ve nailed it…. LOL at my comment….am at work multitasking πŸ™‚


  13. prasad says:

    Before I post comment, everyone above has said what I had to say…

    Soo well written..Coming from a lady herself, got to know abt ‘what women want’ ..Indeed deserving post for the contest πŸ™‚

    LOL. Thank you.


  14. aargee says:

    A very beautiful post… Liked it a lot!

    Thank you…


  15. BlueMist says:

    Bingo. Very well written. πŸ™‚


  16. BlueMist says:

    Bingo. Very well written. πŸ™‚



  17. shilpadesh says:

    A man who does not love her for how hot she is or how rich, but for being herself.
    A life where she is not judged every step of the way, for being a working mother, for being a SAHM, for choosing to not have children!

    Beautifully written!

    Thank you!


  18. Richa says:

    So women just want a man and bear his children? Can’t a woman want something else? I am not sure about others but this is definetly not me. Sorry πŸ™‚

    Of course you are entitled to your opinion. I never did claim to write for all women, just me. πŸ™‚


  19. Jayashree says:

    AWESOME πŸ™‚ that’s the only word I could think of after reading this beautiful post..

    Glad you liked it…


  20. shraddha says:

    very well said…i totally agree…. esp that jam bit…somehow people look at it as if it is uncool thing to say…but that is how i feel..

    Its very old school. But then I’m a dinosaur.


  21. dipali says:

    I think you’ve said it all, Kiran!



  22. very well put together but i have a problem why should all womens want tie to her man?

    Well I did mention this was my opinion. Totally subjective.


  23. Prachi says:

    I’m right away forwarding this to the husband…


  24. Mayank says:

    You opened my eyes mam πŸ™‚
    i will do most of the things you have said
    but i do talk a lot about myself
    my hobbies my work
    as i dont know what else to talk about
    and i seriously i find it hard to continue a casual conversation (I suck at it)
    and this happens only when i talk to a perticualr girl
    else i can talk on and on and any arbit and random stuff
    what to doooooooooo!!
    recently she said it to my face
    That you are boring
    though later she said
    hey you angry with me
    i didnt behave properly etc etc

    but i know she was telling the truth
    i get boring when i talk to her.


  25. payoshni says:

    Hi Kiran
    stumbled upon your blog from somewhere, but loving it πŸ™‚
    was very interested to see this post, and i see you have done quite a bit of justic to ‘what women want’..
    though as a few people pointed out here, its not wholsome, but what the heck, its your blog ,your space and your opinion πŸ™‚

    i disgaree with some poiinters, agree with loads, so Kudos for sharing your take on it !

    Though i would also say that ‘Women basically want to be understood, without being judged ! we are temperamental ,and very complex but definatley not impossible to decipher..so in conclusion, women want to be just be themselves, homely or wild,crazy or shy and not be analysed :D..

    sorry for hoarding so mucha comment space 😦

    Keep writing ! πŸ™‚


  26. Aarabi says:

    this has to be my favorite post of yours. tell me kiran, do men like that still exist? or should i start praying?


    • Ramkumar says:

      I am sure there are plenty of men still out there like this.. U need to make sure though that you follow all that is there in the post and keep an open mind… the rest as they say – will fall into place neatly…

      If we nice men can still hold hope – I am more than sure there is hope for you Women too… πŸ™‚

      Of course there are. I married one, didnt I?


      • Ramkumar says:

        Thanks Kiran ! πŸ™‚

        For atleast some women still think there are Nice Guys out there… wish there were more Women like you to show more of faith that Nice Men still exist… I am tired of having to hear how all men are bad, inspite of never having done anything bad ! πŸ™‚


    • Kiran Manral says:

      I married one, didnt I? Aarabi. He’s not perfect. But then, neither am I!


  27. Sushma says:

    Hi Kiran a long time since I delurked… Here is something I want you to do a post on, am not really sure if you did already but want to hear it out from you.



  28. Sorcerer says:

    Wonderful post and well written.


  29. Sue says:

    Women also want fathers who will treat them like the little girls they will forever be to their dads.

    Great post, milady.


  30. ayushrastogi says:

    hey nice read… well written πŸ™‚


  31. hmm thats your version πŸ™‚ and i am sure there are many more versions which just makes life difficult for poor men πŸ˜‰


  32. divyani says:

    You know what I want – I want this post to be published into a book or may be a newspaper article . if this sensitivity is realized by the men then they would never say women are complex creatures! πŸ™‚


  33. Sneha says:

    Found the blog on twitter. It’s very well written πŸ™‚


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