All about loitering.

Disclaimer: I haven’t read the book yet, but when I read about the book the concept intrigued me because it was something I identified so strongly with, as I guess most women living in the city would.

We don’t loiter as women. We rush through the city with our destination firmly in mind, our eyes glazed and distant, wary of making eye contact unwittingly, our stances defensive and protective of our body space being invaded by unwanted brushings, touchings, gropings. We don’t dare loiter for being mistaken to be what we are not, for fear of seeming approachable, available.
Why Loiter? Women and Risk on Mumbai Streets has been co-authored by an ex-colleague from my TOI days, Sameera Khan. Yes, that was way back in the distant past. Another co-author is Shilpa Phadke, someone I have not met personally but is the wife of an old college pal and a good friend. Ergo, the curiousity about the book when the release came to me.
The premise stung. It was something one had always known at the back of one’s mind but had never quite articulated. That one hated waiting in public, for anyone or anything. One would rather push through into overcrowded trains rather than wait at railway station platforms and let trains go by until one that was comfortably empty came our way.
One still hesitates to wait at street corners for friends, one would rather sit at a coffee shop and order a cappuccino to kill time if one is early. One would rather not be early and have to wait. I would have assumed that things had changed since I was a young girl, and today’s young woman is brave and fearless and had no compunctions about waiting in public spaces but apparently, things haven’t changed that much in almost two decades.
The authors researched this book for three years, and according to the release, Shilpa Phadke, Sameera Khan and Shilpa Ranade argue that though women’s access to urban public space has increased, they still do not have an equal claim to public space in the city. And they raise the question: can women’s access to public space be viewed in isolation from that of other marginal groups?
What about you? Do you loiter in your city, or would you rather not? The bottomline I guess is how safe one feels in one’s city. And despite the proclamations of Mumbai being the supposedly safest amongst cities in the country, women in Mumbai still dare not loiter.


About Kiran Manral

Kiran Manral published her first book, The Reluctant Detective in 2011. Since then, she has published eight books across genres till date. Her books include romance and chicklit with Once Upon A Crush (2014), All Aboard (2015), Saving Maya (2017); horror with The Face at the Window (2016) and nonfiction with Karmic Kids (2015), A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up (2016) and True Love Stories (2017). Her short stories have been published on Juggernaut, in magazines like Verve and Cosmopolitan, and have been part of anthologies like Chicken Soup for the Soul, Have a Safe Journey (2017) and Boo (2017). Her articles and columns have appeared in the Times of India, Tehelka, DNA, Yowoto, Shethepeople, New Woman, Femina, Verve, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Conde Nast Traveller, DB Post, The Telegraph, the Asian Age, iDiva, TheDailyO and more. She was shortlisted for the Femina Women Awards 2017 for Literary Contribution. She is a TEDx speaker and a mentor with Vital Voices Global Mentoring Walk 2017.
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5 Responses to All about loitering.

  1. dk says:

    Thanks K. Will try and get hold of the book. Like you said, it all boils down to how safe you feel in your city. To loiter is such a simple and basic freedom. One that most women in our cities have had to relinquish.


  2. soulmate says:

    Though Pune is quite safe, still I dont loiter around aimlessely.. I know where I have to go, finish the job and come back home… If I am with a friend then we do walk on busy streets…
    When I was in Gurgaon, we never went out after 6 pm.. Was dead scared of the whole place unless my brother was around…


  3. sukanyabora says:

    The premise of the book seems to focus on a crucial point – i would be interested in reading what they found-if things have gotten better or otherwise. i have experienced so many situations on trains/streets of mumbai and delhi where i my security and safety were violated and there are countless others who have had similar experiences, i am sure.

    However, i have to tell you, i not keen on the title ‘Why Loiter’ of the book. Loiter to me is wandering ‘aimlessly’ as if thats what women in Mumbai usually do.


  4. starsinmeyes says:

    Loiter? I’m sitting and thanking my stars that I don’t have to, for the rest of my life now, wait around on the road for my son’s school van, since he will be coming home at the same time at my daughter from next year. Just that 10-15 minutes is so unpleasant, with the stares, ogles and songs sung at me.

    As for waiting on streets…yes, it’s very uncomfortable, esp with a husband who’s perennially late, waiting for him, involves getting more and more hot under the collar, hoping there will be no creeps harrassing me.

    Would love to read this book.


  5. n! says:

    Small world. You know Abhay? I know Shilpa from years and years, and she is a brilliant researcher (and amazing person!). Dying to read the book, I am sure it will be meticulously researched.



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