Why are we so obsessed about Aishwarya’s weight?

Seriously. Is it any of our business. Nope.
To look at the captions of all the pictures that have appeared in recent times about her public appearances and a strange video that shows her demurely draped in an Anarkali and half hidden behind her mother in law which was titled “Aishwarya’s shocking weight gain.”

I’m sure the ones who sit down typing these mean little headlines have never had their bodies balloon out through pregnancy into that of a stranger, and feel like they’re playing out a parody, wearing a fat suit. Nor have they had the experience of looking at their suddenly deflated belly in the mirror the morning after their delivery, C-sec and suddenly been overwhelmed by the sheer horrificness of the loose folds of skin hanging around loosely where once a baby had been snugly ensconced. I’m sure they’ve never been pumped up with hormones with daily and weekly shots, first to help conceive (I speak from my personal experience) and then to keep the pregnancy hanging in there which makes one balloon up to twice one’s regular size to start with and then add to it the baby poundage. And the complete lifestyle change that comes from being a new mother, where one forgets when one had last slept through the night, doesn’t know whether one is awake or is asleep and has rolled over the child and crushed the poor little thing. When the blues attack you so bad, that you break out into tears at the slightest thing, have no motivation to dress out and step into public, when you wish with all your guilty heart and mind that you could turn back the clock to pre baby time and lead the life you led without being attached to this mewling parcel of flesh, who is dependent on you for every little thing.

The first couple of months post pregnancy are hell. Let no one fool you or convince you otherwise. Its good enough if you emerge sane through it all, and most moms do. But to start piling on the pressure for new moms, especially if they’re ex Miss Worlds and movie actresses and brand ambassadors of leading cosmetic brands to get back into shape pronto borders on a kind of cruel witch hunt. To start with, Aishwarya’s size is no one’s business but her own. Unless she is subjecting us to watch her play a glamorous leading lady part with her avoir dupois on full display, which she isn’t. She is taking time out to be hands-on mom, from what one has read, and that is her choice. Surely, she has been part of the glamour world long enough to be confident of whipping herself into shape if she so desires and has the resources and the ability to do so, via diet, exercise or whatever means she can employ and doesn’t need daily reminders via insensitive headlines.

The fact that she is comfortable in her skin, in the additional poundage she has right now is a wonderful statement about how she refuses to succumb to the pressure of getting stick thin and ramp worthy the moment the child is out, through all means fair and foul as we’ve no doubt heard about other fashion icons who’ve been nipped and tucked on the operating table post delivery as their newborns have been wheeled off to score their AGPARs.

And also, there’s this tone of righteousness that I dislike in the strident copy–BT being a prime offender. Are chubby women not attractive? I’m sure many men would disagree, I do know that I get written complaints in triplicate from the spouse when I get on a whittle self down to skinny diet, because there’s ermm, less of me to love. What creates this concept that being stick thin and androgynous is the only way to be considered attractive? That curves are the enemy and women need to conform to a Barbiesque unrealistic proportions in order to be considered attractive, of course, unless they topple over and seriously dent their noses in which case, they’ll have to get a nose job to straighten out that nose and shave it to exact pertness, ah well, you get my drift.

Aishwarya looks like a new mom. And that’s a different kind of beauty. She can go back to killer curvature when she’s weaned her kid. IF she wants to. That’s her prerogative. Her body. Right now, I think she’s earned her time out from the hyperaesthetic rat race.

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About Kiran Manral

Author of The Face At The Window, ( 2016), Karmic Kids, All Aboard (2015) , Once Upon A Crush (2014) and The Reluctant Detective (2011).
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42 Responses to Why are we so obsessed about Aishwarya’s weight?

  1. Amen. I saw it on the FB sneaky reader and I was shocked by the number of people I knew, reading about her weight gain. It’s almost as though you needed to do it to feel better about yourself. Ugh.

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      Ah, I watched it and it popped up on my FB timeline. Can’t get over the tone used in all the copy–the headlines, the bodycopy. Like it is a crime for her to gain weight.

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  2. dipali says:

    Oh, absolutely, Kiran. Nobody’s business but her own.

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  3. Maqbool says:

    Thats because we are equally obsessed about her beauty before her pregnancy…its just human curiosity or envy in either case!

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      We really need to remember she is human and a new mother. She’s been in shape for 38 years. Two months out of shape shouldn’t be a global catastrophe.

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  4. utbtkids says:

    “I’m sure the ones who sit down typing these mean little headlines have never had their bodies balloon out through pregnancy into that of a stranger”

    Not necessarily. The person’s real life experience has got nothing to do with the article. Just an intense desire to capture people’s attention, little perversion and lacking of the belief that writing is the expression of one’s soul and feelings.

    It is an article written to increase readership and it did just that.

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      If there was some empathy with the process of pregnancy and childbirth the very tone would have been different and not so judgemental, is what I;m saying.

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  5. Khan Mukhtar says:

    the most important thing during pregnancies is care of budding life and the body carrying it must carry fat to carry food to the life inside. With the birth of life the body can be metamorphosed to the perfect size. Ash putting weight is a signal to expected mothers that don’t compromise with the health of your new borne s they need fat.

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  6. ~nm says:

    Super like the post. And especially since I’m on the same boat as her 😀

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  7. Rachna says:

    Most people with a sudden weight gain do not attend parties and stuff. But the fact that Aishwarya is NOT ashamed of her new body and is just as comfortable as she was before pregnancy is riling up a lot of people. It also goes to say she is not beauty conscious at all and is not obsessed with living up to the “most beautiful woman in the world” tag. Most celebs appoint dozens of nannies for their babies and get a tummy tuck to lose weight quickly. The fact that Ash is handling everything herself and doesn’t give a damn about her body goes to show what a REAL approach to life she has as a person. I cannot believe so many girls find her a plastic doll or fake? Well at least now I think she is more REAL than any other actress. She’s earned a new fan!

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      I tell you, I had a different opinion of her before this, and there has been a shift in the way I perceive her. Especially the fact that she isn’t shying away from public appearances, structuring her events according to the baby’s feeding schedule, and doing everything for the baby herself, etc. I know non celeb wealthy new moms who depute everything to the nannies.

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      • mridula menon says:

        Ditto ! I used to loathe her for being so naive in her public appearances … far away from her natural self … but the way she handled her pregnancy to her post natal life … has definitely changed my outlook about her. I am sure there are plenty of stars and starlets who prefer going the surrogacy way to make sure their stick thin body remains intact. I appreciate the fact that Aish has set an ideal for most women to be proud of who they are instead being obsessed about their looks.

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      • utbtkids says:

        Agree. Never liked her. But she is handling this very well. And my perception of her has changed quite a bit.

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  8. Rachna says:

    I will thank you for this article. It really pains me to see people pass comments like “she looks like Aunty now”, “she looks like a baby elephant”. DAMN! I feel terrible for Aishwarya. As if NONE of our mothesr never ever gained a single pound during their pregnancies. Retards.

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  9. IAHL says:

    She must still be breastfeeding and for the milk to come out, she has to EAT. And eat for TWO. It is normal to gain weight. Jesus, the girl has worked her ass off to stay fit for 20 years before she got pregnant. Can she not gain weight even for a few months? Why is it a crime? And besides, there are SO many actresses who gain weight later in their life. Nobody is scrutinized so much. Why only Aishwarya? WHY WHY WHY!!

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  10. shilpadesh says:

    So agree with you! Having had a baby a year ago I was nodding away at everything you said. Especially this:

    “when you wish with all your guilty heart and mind that you could turn back the clock to pre baby time”

    It is hard enough being a new parent, we don’t need people reminding us how we are still fat 😦

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      Exactly. Why don’t folks realise as a new mother, one’s figure is probably the last thing on one’s mind, its such a complete lifeshift.

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  11. Rokayia Athat says:

    No place for fat people in the glitzy & glamourous world of Bollywood & Hollywood !!!!!!!!!! Sad but a reality :(:(

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  12. shachi18 says:

    @Rachna – you should not use the word “retards”. It’s not the right word to use in this case. It totally offends people who have children with special needs.

    Anyway, great piece of writing Kiran. As you said, my husband also prefers my chubby cheeks and a fairly balanced figure….he says too skinny is boring :P. Most of the guy friends I know share the same opinion as hubby. I really admire Aishwarya for staying out of the public eye and being candid about natural birth as well as not trying to get back to a supermodel figure right after delivery.

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  13. AKM says:

    “Aishwarya’s size is no one’s business but her own”. Ummm… like Ganguly’s hair, Aamir’s facelifts etc… part of being a model/actress in showbiz is that the public considers it fair game to comment on your vital stats. A means of upping the views, is all : first it was all the stuff “is she/isn’t she preg”, then it was “baby’s name” and now it is “she’s fat”. I don’t think it’s such a big deal at all. I would think some of the ads targeted at so called “normal” women who seem to be size zero moms or worse, at teens to be skinny/sexy whatever are what should be receiving plussize jootis on their behinds !

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  14. Anu says:

    Hi Kiran:

    Glad that you called a spade a spade. Seriously. It is none of our business.

    Anu

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  15. R's Mom says:

    Loved what you wrote…its so so true..this seems crazy..I am honestly not a big fan of Aishwarya..though I must admit that I am impressed by the way she has handled her motherhood,…in her terms and totally comfortable with herself..

    Seriously! Its none of our business whether she gains, loses, doubles or halves her weight!

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  16. Gauri says:

    We’re a curvy people and till not so long back, also weren’t this harshly judgemental of less than perfect appearances. The entertainment media has taken much too many leaves out of E!’s book just hunting for provocative story angles.
    Now, suddenly, everything from how they cover pre-award red carpets to gossip reportage smacks of the same derivative and inappropriate perspective.
    Don’t get me wrong, I’m not blaming the ‘foreign hand’, I’m blaming our own inability to filter what’s good to adopt and what’s not.

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  17. shobibala says:

    I really don’t understand what this pressure is about wanting a new mom to look like a lingerie model…what is wrong in wanting her to look like a Mom??? Jada Pinkett-Smith in an interview said that it isn’t hard for women to lose weight post-partum..presumably she did it. She worked out for 4hrs starting a couple of days, post C-section…err, I care too much about splitting my incision and the pain. So I say, take it easy and move on people..let Aishwarya be a mom..she deserves it.

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    • Kiran Manral says:

      I tell you, why! This ridiculous pressure. Unless you’re doing a movie, I don’t see the need for this pressure.

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  18. A says:

    Based on the writing style – newspapers – especially that tabloid called TOI and it’s related newsletters – seem to have only misogynist idiots with horrifically poor writing skills on their staff.

    The entire focus is to get people to read their stuff with attention seeking headlines and pictures. Sensitivity, truth and compassion be damned. I can only hope that they go down with their ghastly newspapers in a manner that will make them remember the atrocities they caused with their written word.

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  19. Aishwarya in fact is a role model – father of a 17 year old girl who worked for us, had left her mother and married another woman. Her mother was 35 and had six children, her face brightened when I told her Aishwarya Rai, from their state (Karnataka) had married at 33, so her mother shouldn’t think her life was over at 35.

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  20. BEV says:

    i think it’s ridiculous the way ppl are going on abt it, as if she’s committing some sort of crime by wanting to focus on the baby and losing weight slowly. I think she’s being a much better role model for normal women than Victoria Beckham and the likes who lose all the weight in 3 weeks, god knows how…

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  21. People who cannot empathise with the post-pregnancy issues are the once who can write up such article. They can only write such article to get more traffic and are not actually sentimental or judgemental about the weight gain issue.

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  22. MSS says:

    Late comments but nevertheless…. Why our mothers who delivered 5 to 6 children on an average never gained weight.Today inspite of so much of care and counselling, the mothers put on weight after the first child. Is it C section,or no work,or too much of healthy food before and after?

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  23. Som says:

    Great Article..Its great to read that there are popl like u who r thinking logically! The way aish life has been scrutinised is hard anyways..n to top it all is this hulla on her weight..ppl callin her moti b ! too much! i dunno how some celeb moms manage to loose all the post -delv weight in weeks..but aish is at least setting the right n healthy example! m glad that she us doing this..n evem more glad to knw that there r some ppl who understdn her pt of view as well !

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