In which Mumbaigloss.in features me


Mumbaigloss was completely thrilled to feature a multifaceted and talented woman liker her who is also a mum to 10 year old Krish. She rather likes to introduce herself as a school-gate mom who was a journalist once but now a blogger and a writer. Kiran, 42, has come out with another interesting chic-lit called Once Upon A Crush, which is a rom-com and a fun read. She brings out the anxiety of the growing breed of young Indian women who are hitting 30s and are yet to marry; the social stigma of marrying late, the parental intrusion while choosing a partner, the constant pressure of striving for a career which might give a fat pay cheque but is not fulfilling enough. We decided to ask her more about her latest novel.

Once Upon A Crush, Kiran Manral

MG: Kiran, thank you for being a part of Mumbaigloss. Can you tell us why should our readers buy this book? Is it based on true life events? Who is the inspiration behind the main characters?

KM: The story of Once Upon A Crush is quite simple. It is about a girl Rayna De, almost hitting 30, feeling the pressure from her parents to ‘settle down’. Not having found the perfect man, she is ‘seeing’ prospective suitable partners. She has a completely inappropriate crush on a man in her office, and tries hard not to make a fool of herself. It isn’t based on true life events in my life for sure, but a lot of chats I’ve had with friends. The inspiration behind the characters were the many late twenties women I’ve spoken to, who are single in the city and can’t seem to find the right person to settle down with.

Kiran Manral, Konkona Sen, Dove event

MG: How is it different from the various chic-lits available in the market?

KM: The tone of the novel is terse. It is irreverent, it is fun, and yet it is very emotional because it deals with a certain stage in the life of the protagonist where nothing seems to be going right for her and she’s questioning everything about herself. It is not all rose-tinted like other stories

Well said Kiran! I am not sure how many of us would agree to this definition of love but we are certainly game for a new entertaining chic-lit from you. What say ladies? Go pre-order it at Flipkart, Crossword, Landmark, infibeam, etc.

 

Read the entire feature here

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In which I get interviewed by the fabulous Preeti Shenoy on her blog


Here’s an excerpt from the post:

So I spoke to her, and asked her some fun interesting questions. Here is what she had to say:

  1.  How did you become a writer?

 

I think I always was a writer. Ever since I can remember, I was busy writing out elaborate stories, with magic driven plots and interesting characters and since back then, I loved sketching, I would even sketch out episodes from those stories. I think my mother even has some of those stories still with her and showed them recently to my son. I think more than a writer, I was always a story teller, and nothing pleased me more than to lose myself in either reading a story or writing one out.

 

  1.  What according to you are three absolutely essential qualities to be a writer?

Three absolutely essential qualities to be a writer according to me would be curiosity, compassion and the ability to communicate. All in equal measure. If you allow me a fourth, I would add a sense of wonder, because if one doesn’t have a sense of wonder, one wouldn’t find anything worth writing about.

 

  1.  Your book involves office romance. And in present day scenario, it is very common to develop crushes on someone which may develop into a full-fledged relationship. What is your advice to both parties, in case they are committed or married?

I’ve heard of this strangest new phrase “work spouse” wherein folks who are married or committed, have folks in the office they are so close to that they almost consider them spouses. I haven’t been working full time for over ten years now, but I would like to state that it is very easy to develop an emotional or romantic attachment with someone in the workplace, given one is spending long hours together with them, and is probably getting from them the attention one perceives one isn’t getting from a spouse. In such a situation, it might be good to step back a bit, examine why there is a gap in your committed relationship to allow a third person to enter between the two of you. And an office relationship can get very messy, it is best to stay away. Or keep your relationship and PDA outside the office.

 

  1.  How important is in love in real life?

I think love is very, very important. We all need validation as persons, and the only thing that does this is the love of another. What is life after all, but moving from one love to another, the love of a parent, to the love of a spouse or a partner, to the love of a child.

As a writer, I think all of what we write is driven primarily from love or the need of it or lack of it in our lives.

If it is good and fulfilling, it fills you up with joy and makes you creative. If it is despairing and dark and torturous, you will still write to deal with the angst.

 

  1.  Favourite movie/movies?

I am a horror movie buff and catch watch The Ringu movies umpteen times, Exorcist, The Amityville Horror, and so many more. But not slasher movies, movies which involve the paranormal fascinate me. I am also fond of sci-fi and fantasy films.  I am also a sentimental fool who sobs when I watch tear jerkers so I tend to avoid those.

  1.  Music that you like?

I run the gamut from Naina Devi’s thumris to Lady Ga Ga to 80s and 90s Pop and Rock to Gregorian chants to modern Bollywood music. I think I am an equal opportunity music lover, but I really don’t get rap.

 

  1.  If you weren’t a mother, writer, blogger, CSA activist, what would you be?

A television anchor. I’ve always wanted to be on television. Somehow I never got down to fulfilling that dream and have always regretted it.  Interesting because I am basically a very introverted person, so this is something completely contrary to my nature.

 

  1.  What authors do you read? What kind of writing do you enjoy?

I read anything I can lay my hands on. I bore quickly of reading that is very high brow and demands I dip into a dictionary constantly to figure out what the author is trying to say. I like the writing of P G Wodehouse, Dave Barry, Terry Pratchett, Jane Austen, Charlotte Bronte, Mark Twain, Haruki Murakami, Jodi Picoult and Stephen King amongst others. I must say I am a sucker for an interesting turn of phrase, or a thought presented powerfully in the most innocuous looking sentences. I like writers who can deal with most mundane topics with a sense of wry humour. Like Erma Bombeck for instance.

 

  1.  If you had to do one thing in the next 3 hours that would make you very happy what will you do?

I would do a long leisurely lunch with my friends. It has been so long that I’ve done a long girly lunch that I miss it so.

 

  1.  Could you give us your favourite part of the book?

My favourite part from the book is the part where my protagonist, Rayna De goes to get a haircut. She has long hair she’s rather proud of, but the hair cut is kind of symbolic of her wanting to shake things up in her life, and it is more than just a hair cut for her in that sense. It a casting off of what she perceives as her ‘image’ and an embracing of a new her.

 

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You can check out (and pre-order!) the book using the links below:

The book can be pre ordered here:

Flipkart

Crossword

Infibeam

Amazon

The twitter hashtag is #OnceUponACrush

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Pre Order Once Upon A Crush here


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Excerpt from Soumitra Singh’s The Child of Misfortune


“Amar and Jonah played chess in childhood before a series of events ripped their friendship apart. Now, they’ve grown up and find themselves challenging each other again – a dangerous game of chess with extremely high stakes involving their lives and the lives of millions of people – a game that takes them on an audacious journey from the valleys of Kashmir to the corporate houses of London. Who will survive and who will win?”

 

The book is a geopolitical thriller that takes places across various geographies and explores the concept of terrorism financing. The Child of Misfortune  ventures into unchartered territories in writing – be it the conflict in frozen Siachen or the misuse of Offshore Financial Centres. 
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Amar entered the drawing room to find Jonah, lurking around the grand chess table as his father came in and settled onto a sofa with a laptop, five different National newspapers, and a cup of tea. ‘Wanna play?’ Amar asked Jonah, trying to supress a smile.

‘You never ask someone to play chess Amar,’ his father called out from his side of the drawing room. ‘You challenge them to it.’

Amar ignored his father and sat across the table. It took thirty-one minutes. For Jonah to beat him. ‘Let’s play again,’ Amar ordered through clenched teeth.

‘Challenge,’ his father corrected.

It took twenty-eight minutes this time. And Mr. Rathore strolled over, sipping his second tea, just in time to watch his son predict the inevitable checkmate Jonah had trapped him into two moves earlier, and give up.

‘Once More!’ Amar said evenly, struggling to keep the desperation out of his voice. The timer read twenty minutes when the game ended. Jonah had only his white king, two pawns and the queen remaining in the end. In comparison to Amar’s eleven pieces. The white queen knocked out the black king.

‘May I challenge you to a game, Jonah?’ Mr. Rathore asked as Amar left his seat and exited the drawing room, his face dark. As his guest nodded, Mr. Rathore summoned a servant to clear away the tea cups, mindful not to leave them on the chess table. He settled down opposite Jonah, rolled up his sleeves, and asked Jonah to begin.

Amar strolled back fifteen minutes later to find his father smiling, and Jonah sombre as ever. It was not long before his father’s ebony horse took out the white gold king.

‘You’re really good at strategizing, Jonah,’ his father declared, ‘But your entire strategy seems to be based around your vazeer.’ Rahgav Pratap Rathore picked up the piece Jonah would have referred to as the queen. ‘The vazeer, or minister,’ he continued, ‘is the king’s counsellor. He is capable of extraordinary feats, but at the end, you must remember, that it is the king, incapable as he may seem, that remains as the single most important unit in your army. For you to win, it is your king who should not be conquered. The vazeer can, and should, be sacrificed if required.’

He then picked up the elephant. ‘Keep your chariot in mind Jonah – the rook as you may call it. It is the only unit that works in complete tandem with your king. The rook will probably serve the king far more than the vazeer ever will.’

The two boys listened attentively as he picked up the horse and the bishop. ‘The bishop, or what we refer to as the camel,’ he shook the piece in his right hand, ‘is your King’s right-hand man. He can be used for long-range attacks and penetration that may be difficult for your opponent to perceive.’

‘And the Knight…,’ Mr Rathore motioned to the piece in his left hand, ‘is an oddity among the army. The Knight’s L-shaped movement, and ability to jump other units, makes it the most powerful in closed positions. The Knight can get over insurmountable situations in unparalleled ways.’

The Chief Minister of Maharashtra had then paused before stating the next sentence with authority. ‘You have a really sharp mind Jonah, it just needs to be honed to make the right decisions.’

Amar glimpsed excitement on his father’s face before he made an unusual request to his young opponent. ‘Would you mind if an old-timer like me taught you a little bit?’

Jonah nodded. His two-millimetre nod.

‘Chess originated in India, Jonah. Did you know that?’ The elder man began.

‘I am Indian as much as I am French,’ Jonah said, by way of answering.

‘I apologize,’ the elder man smiled apologetically. ‘But I digress. The game was first called Chaturanga. Later it became Shatranj, and then chess, as it is known in most places today. Billions of people all over the world have played it since then; constantly challenging each other, and the game. If I might say so, the game is today considered a pinnacle of IQ and strategy. And of forward thinking. But did you know, Jonah, that the entire psychology of chess can be crystallized into three simple concepts? Just three simple concepts that even chess-masters don’t realize.’

Amar turned his attention to his father, his eyes narrowing.

‘Would you like to know what those three concepts are, Jonah?’

Four fans in the drawing room whooshed air as Jonah stared blankly at the scholarly man.

‘Papa. Please don’t annoy him,’ Amar stated testily. ‘Just say whatever you have to say.’

Mr Rathore let out a chuckle. ‘The three concepts are Tabiya, prahuti and samjiti.’

Once again, the only noise in the room was the air circulating the blades of the fans Amar spoke. ‘We are intrigued, Papa. Now will you please tell us what all this fancy Sanskrit means?’

‘Opening, sacrifice and conquest,’ his father said. And then speedily began rearranging the pieces on the board.

Tabiya, the opening,’ the chess-master quickly brought out the pieces and pushed them out rapidly, one after the other, using only his ebony army till he reached a sort of predetermined symmetrical pattern. ‘The battle array – you analyse your army and get ready to battle, ensuring that everything has been placed at the optimum position to take maximum advantage to begin. And then you display your set. That is when your opponent should realize what your opening strategy has been. A good chess master can get into the mind of his opponent and control the moment of truth – when the opponent realizes what the strategy had been all along. That is when the chess master displays his tabiya.’

He paused as he bought some of the pieces from Jonah’s side over and arranged them until he reached a specific pattern. ‘Prahuti, the sacrifice,’ he began as he made Jonah’s rook eliminate his own vazeer, ‘Prahuti is when you sacrifice a piece intentionally, even though it serves a great purpose in your army, but you do so, keeping a greater goal in mind. And you move ahead.’

He played a rapid succession of moves for both sides till suddenly it dawned on Amar why his father had intentionally let the ebony vazeer be sacrificed. ‘And that goal is the Samjiti, the conquest or complete victory. Only made possible by the prahuti,’ he finished by bringing Jonah’s king to a checkmate in four simple moves. Moves that were simple now that they could be backtracked. ‘And that is how you achieve Samjiti – complete victory.’

The creaking of the ceiling fans was the only noise that the room heard for a few seconds after the black rook had knocked down the white king.

‘Now, may I have the pleasure of challenging you once more, Jonah?’

Amar and his father both looked at Jonah. No two-millimetre nod. But strangely, Amar could see some sort of expression on his face – as if something was shifting behind his steely eyes; as if he was in a far away place.

‘No,’ Jonah finally said. ‘Not right now.’

His father had given a quizzical look before finally breaking into a smile. ‘Some other day then. My invitation remains open. Feel free to visit anytime and challenge me.’

Jonah nodded.

It was an ominous invitation; one that Amar would later wish that Jonah had never accepted.

 

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And since this seems to be a week about beauty….


…I’ve realised I’ve finally made peace with my appearance. After years of banging my head against the metaphoric wall for not being a 12 foot glamazon with collarbones that could cut butter, I’ve realised that being a pocket version of one, albeit with more curves than I can contain isn’t a bad bargain. I’ve given up expecting to morph overnight into a light eyed blonde haired epitome of Caucasian beauty and ergo, you will no longer see me torturing my tresses with platinum highlights that are meant to look sun kissed but in troth look more sun fried, and I will no longer dunk the eyeball with a coloured contact lens. Beauty, I’ve realised, to conform to the norm, requires effort. I’m too lazy to put in that effort. Thankfully, I’m no longer, in my head, that overweight, bespectacled, pimply faced, oiled into two tight plaits hairstyle sporting adolescent. She’s hiding somewhere, that girl, she occasionally surfaces, and I have to feed her some chocolate to get her to lie low again. 

My visits to the beauty parlour, few and far between are merely for regular maintenance issues to keep me from looking like the woman who ran with the wolves, and get all the excess topiary and foliage off my person. God, when will armpit hair come into fashion? Twenty years and I still whimper when the girl applies that hot wax to delicate parts of the skin. And I’m not even beginning to talk of places where the wax strips have no business being unless you want to associate a level of intolerable pain with a particular South American country. The lady who runs the place has stopped trying to talk me into a facial or even a clean up and sighs resignedly every time she makes a mental note of the pores being open enough to have oil derricks put in place to extract subcutaneous oil deposits from deep within the pores.

And yes, I get them to do the hands and feet. I am a little particular about that, well maintained hands and feet. I judge. Okay, go snicker behind my back, but if you’re dressed in the poshest togs and your digits are not clean and cut and filed, I’m going to raise one eyebrow ever so subtly so help me god. As I’ve aged I’ve stopped skittering around with multiple products for my skin and hair and gone back to basics. For the hair a fortnightly application of a henna pack, basic Clear and Dove shampoos and conditioners (no they’re not paying me to say that) and for the skin, regular Cetaphil facewash and Moisturiser, and Johnson’s Baby Lotion for the night and Lacto Calamine for the day is working well enough. I had just about gone crazy under the pile of day creams, night creams, eye creams, serums, lotions, miracle oils, active plant extracts, cosmoceuticals and a whole lot of fancy sounding words which made me wonder if my skin would self combust on application and worry whether I would live to tell the tale. Fortunately, I’ve realised that nothing works as well on the skin as maintaining a sense of humour and a sense of calm, alternatively, realising that one is morphing into that ugly creature, the louder, more belligerent invisible older woman, and trying hard to tone down one’s voice even when one has been elbowed aside for the umpteenth time when in a queue, and laughing aloud as much as one can to throw people off balance.

I’ve realised that there is no greater beauty than a woman comfortable in her own skin, and you are as beautiful as you believe yourself to be. And I’ve also realised, as I’ve aged, that the best cosmetic is a smile, and the greatest fragrance is compassion. I hope to get by with those two, though I’m not skimping on the face paint yet. I’ve yet to reach that level of zen about my appearance.

 

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The Dove Beauty Patch Panel Discussion


The kind people at Dove invited me, actress Konkona Sen Sharma and pastry chef Pooja Dhingra of Le15 to talk about beauty and it being a state of mind. Here we are.

 

And this is the very thought provoking film that Dove launched.

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Am a SHERO


April 9th, 2014

Meet the SHEROES – Kiran Manral

 

Kiran Manral has worked as a journalist before she quit to be full time mommy. Her blogs, Thirty six and counting and Karmic Kid, are both in Labnol’s list of India’s top blogs. She blogged at Tehelka Blogs on gender issues. She is also considered a ‘social media star’ on twitter by the TOI and IBN Live named her as among the 30 interesting Indian women to follow on twitter and among the top 10 Indian moms to follow on twitter for 2013.

Post 26/11, she founded India Helps, a volunteer network to help disaster victims post 26/11 and has worked on long term rehabilitation of 26/11 Mumbai terror attack victims and 13/7 Mumbai bomb blast victims, amongst others.

She is part of core founding team behind CSAAM and Violence Against Women Awareness Month, two very well received social media awareness initiatives across twitter and the blogosphere.

Her debut novel, The Reluctant Detective, was published by Westland in 2012. Her second novel, Once Upon A Crush, a rom com, is being released by Leadstart Publishing in April 2014. We talk to her about Once Upon A Crush and more. 

What is Once Upon a Crush about?

Once Upon A Crush is a rom com about an almost 30 year old single girl, living in Mumbai, under pressure from her parents to settle down in holy matrimony with a suitable boy, and her seemingly unattainable crush on the resident office good looker. It is a story that most girls could identify with, about decisions, self doubt and the realisation that life always takes its own course.

What are the challenges you face as a writer?

Primarily, finding the time to write undisturbed. And then feeling motivated enough to put my nose to the grindstone and write. And thirdly, gathering the courage to send one’s manuscript out to publishers. There is always so much self doubt and belief that this isn’t good enough, and you need to work more on it, but at some point you just need to send your work out into the universe and trust that it will find an audience that appreciates it.  

We see a lot of writers publishing books, how can a first-timer make sure their work stands out?

I wouldn’t be so presumptuous to give out advice on making one’s book stand out, but all I can say is write the best story you can, pay attention to grammar and spelling, and if you put your heart and soul into what you write, surely someone somewhere will connect with your manuscript. And yes, good presentation always helps. A good covering letter, a succinct synopsis, following the mandated submission format.

Message for all the SHEROES out there. 

Follow your dreams. Don’t ever not believe in your ability to do what you want. And don’t allow anyone to tell you that you can’t do it. You have more power than you can ever imagine. But first, you need to believe in yourself. The only limitations are the ones you set yourself.


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